How good are we at passing between generations our learning though experience ?
We are great at documenting and passing material, scientific, technical, and factual information between generations. Year on year more discoveries are made and progress is made as a body of wisdom is generated…..
Or is it?
How good are we at passing between generations our learning though experience, our learning about things that can’t be measured….things like
-Feelings, Thoughts, Intuition, Perception….our Psychology or
-Experience in Relationship, Marriage, Choices, Life, Vulnerability, Daring to tell someone how we feel, taking a risk, opening our hearts?
Alain De Botton in this article likens this absence of sharing of the latter things to being similar to asking each generation to discover the Laws of Physics for themselves…..How crazy would that be?
Counselling can be one way to learn the type of Wisdom that is harder to measure and harder to pass from one generation to another
You have a problem. You go to the Doctor. You might carry some of the following conscious or unconscious assumptions…
– I will tell the Doctor my problem -The Doctor will draw conclusions relatively quickly to allow a ‘treatment path’ to be activated -They will make my problem go away, ideally without me having to do much (apart from maybe take medicine, take it easy etc) -The ‘fix’ is from the outside to the inside -Many similar ‘fixes’ might have been offered by this Doctor to other patients -It might be about getting rid of something or removing something from you
Counsellor or Doctor? How is a session Different?
How is this different from coming to see a Counsellor / Therapist?
-I won’t try to ‘fix’ you -It’s not about making progress necessarily (unless you tell me that’s what you want) -Instead it’s about understanding more clearly WHERE you are and WHY this might be -It’s about understanding how you are affected -It’s about understanding your hopes, fears, imagination, worries, thoughts, and feelings -We might wonder, ponder and consider things in more detail and with more time -You are an individual-We will consider your past, your present, your future -I believe you have all the wisdom and help you need within yourself, but there are some things getting in the way of you being able to access this inner wisdom -You might have to put a bit of yourself in the process and I realise this can be difficult, scary, and hard to imagine, but I’ve taken these steps before you so I might have an idea of how it could work for you
-There is the potential for lasting, real change and growth