Thought provoking animated style video about Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACES)
Although this Video is in animated form, you may see aspects of yourself in this video…You may be reminded of yours or others history. You may experience an emotional response watching this.
We could say the video is a little simplistic. It implies that getting help via police and social worker is the way to resolve or get past Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACES). It may also imply that if you have an Adverse Childhood Experience then you will be more likely/or inevitably suffer later in life. It is not inevitable. Many factors are relevant in considering the impact of Adverse Childhood Experiences. These include the natural resilience of each person, the nature and number of difficulties and the nature and number of supportive influences and factors in a young persons life.
You may find that Counselling is one of the many ways that you can come to terms with. and help understand Adverse Childhood Experiences
The Advert is not showing specifically what Counselling is (apart from sitting opposite someone and talking) but shows how the adult has evolved from the child. Also shown is how the adult behaviour is influenced by childhood experiences.
You might take a different meaning from it. Whether you are a woman or a man which part of this video speaks to you or provokes you?
Counselling can provide an opportunity to explore your evolution from child to adult and/or how your childhood experiences may affect you now
If you are a young men age 18- 25 don’t miss out if you are struggling, need to make a change in your life and you’re ready to make a commitment. – Or know someone who is – this is your chance: JUST SHOW UP to learn more.
If you are a men over the age of 28, whether interested in becoming a mentor, making referrals or supporting through funding – come and find out how you can get involved.
Adults as Orphans? Emotional Orphans when parents are not available?
We traditionally think of orphans as children. What happens when an adult becomes an orphan owing to the physical loss or death of parents? If someone is older then perhaps its expected. But what if the death of parents is when someone is younger or not expected?
Can we define a concept such as an “emotional orphan”? Perhaps it is someone whose parents are alive but not emotionally available to them. There are many reasons why a parent may not be able to be available to their young children or grown up adult children. Addiction, workaholism, being wrapped up in their own difficulties, lack of awareness, problems in how parents were parented, ie intergenerational challenges can all be reasons for a parents non availability from an emotional perspective.
This is harder to recognise and perhaps goes under the radar at a societal level but the effects can be just as challenging. Unpicking and becoming more fully aware of how our relationships with our parents affected us is one of many things that can be explored through counselling.
This Guardian article explains the experience of someone who became an orphan at 25
Long Term Counselling Placements for Men & Women Trainee Counsellors in Oxford
Oxford Mens Counselling Service is recruiting trainee counsellors for long term placements. working with Men. Most placements only offer short term work, so this placement offers the benefits of long term work. Free Monthly supervision Groups are also included.
Female and Male trainee counsellors of any modality are invited to contact.
Please contact Will Bentley for further information on 01865 422 363. Please leave a message if necessary
Deeply inspiring auto-biographical book, covering the real life adventures of the author whilst living on the edge of the Pine Barrens wilderness area of New Jersey.
82 year old Lipan Apache “Stalking Wolf”, (who
had avoided reservation life, and got his name by stalking and touching a
Wolf) had his lifetime prophecy/vision realised when he saw the 8
year old Tom playing by the river in 1958.
A ten year
apprenticeship commenced, where Stalking Wolf imparted his 82 years
worth of earth and spiritual based wisdom into eager participants Tom
and his friend Rick.
Split into 21 easily readable chapters, this
shortish book covers concepts like the inter-connectedness of, and
value of concentric circles in the forest, how the mice can be great
teachers, the mythical “Jersey Devil”, and learning how to change ones
relationship to the cold.
Several gripping, page turning chapters
include encounters with packs of wild dogs (Tom has to think about dog
pack and lead dog psychology and use great ingenuity and physical
prowess to get away after 72 hours stuck in a tree) , an encounter with
an angry bear, an extermination, a revenge against inconsidered humans,
and the life or death tracking of a mentally impaired adult who is
lost in the Pine Barrens.
This book is for anyone who wants to
reconnect to what we might have lost in our materalistic, scientific,
evidence based world. It provides a window into how a continent used to
live for tens of thousands of years until recently
I found this
book was one that lived contentedly in my dreams. I bought several
copies and wanted to give them away and enthusiatically wanted to tell
the stories within it (without giving away the endings of course!).
I also felt sadness for what has been lost in terms of my understanding of nature and spirit and my natural environment.
However I think that a master novelist couldn’t match the impact of some of these chapters. I’ve never been much of a reader but perhaps i’ve just been reading the wrong books…….
I’m sure this website doesn’t have all the answers. Perhaps you are sitting with a question you want answered and aren’t sure what to do next? Can you help me understand what it is like to consider coming to Counselling or asking questions about it?
At the bottom of the screen it is possible to post a question. Depending on the nature of the question and/or your stated preference I will try to answer publicly or privately.
A Band of Brothers: (Charity) Video of 10 year Anniversary
Women/Partners speak about witnessing the impact of, and their support of the men who participate in the running of A Band of Brothers. A National Charity providing Rites of Passage, Mentoring, Sitting in Circle for men of all ages. It has now been running for 10 years.
Click Below for a video of their 10 year celebration when they met in the countryside recently. Video is made up of several testimonies from the women who support their partners participation in this charity. The men can’t do this without their partners support
Starting Counselling was the pivoting point of my life. I decided to become a Counsellor as a result of the significance of change that I experienced
The first session is a chance for you to see what it is like to be able to talk and someone listen without interruption or judgement or unwanted advice giving. For some people it might be the first time that they have had an experience of being listened to in an uninterrupted way. If you have a busy life then Counselling can be a time free of distractions where you can check in with yourself.
Counselling can last anything from 1 session to many years. There is no obligation to continue. You can ask questions and have an experience of how it works.
All counsellors can remember what it was like when they went for their own first session of counselling, so are thoughtful and aware that this might be the case for you too.