What? There will only be 2 adults in the session right?
Wrong. Alongside/Inside each of the two presenting adults is an internalised inner child and an internalised parental figure.
Suddenly things are a little bit more complicated
Person 1 Person 2
Couples sometimes get stuck in the dotted lines positions, where one is having a go at the other one. (
Diagram courtesy of The Context of Things)
Couples Counselling aims to get both parties relating along the solid line ie from Adult to Adult. This happens by many methods but the first stage is to realise the unhelpful patterns and why they come about
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“What is white supremacy, actually, and what does it look like in the everyday world? Furthermore, who is choosing to look away from the effects of white supremacy and their part in it and, importantly, why?”
Interesting article from ‘Refinery 29’
Everyone has a different reaction,
to the idea of Counselling sessions conducted on line or by the phone. their own reaction
For some it’s a turn off and they are not interested, as they consider something is “missing” or its harder to connect.
For some clients it is easier to have online Counselling, again for a variety of reasons. It may feel safer, easier, less pressured, or the technology gives them control
The only way to actually know, would be to have a session and then see what opinion you formed.
Western society values Doing much more than Being.
Article from ‘The Ascent’ goes into this in more detail
Doing can be measured, can be seen by others, and can often me monetised
Being is hard to measure, is less visible and often doesn’t generate money
Doing can have a function of blocking out or avoiding or making it harder to tune into our deeper wisdom, intuition, perception and feelings.
This is an example of something that can be explored in Counselling for some people